Posted on 09 May 2013.
What does being a mother mean to you?
Being a mother in this day and age means dealing with issues my mother didn’t even think of dealing with. I don’t just need to teach my children discipline and correct values, but I need to equip them with what they need to be self-actualised individuals. So that situations with the potential of leading to harassment, abuse, bullying, or complacency are not a factor for them.
Tell us about your first pregnancy…
When I learned of my first pregnancy I was extremely excited! I’d always known I wanted kids, and I was with the person I knew I wanted to spend my life with.Being a mother to my children means being myself, but a better version of me. Nothing motivates me like my children. I call them my angels because I truly feel like they’re God’s avenue to communicating with me.
What are some of the challenges you have faced as a working mother?
The most challenging bit of being a working mother is reminding yourself that you are good enough. Insecurities can surface when you see stay-at-home moms and what they’re able to do with their time. School projects or bakerman/bakerlady days can be torture! However, we all do the best we can for our kids, and that’s what you need to remember.
What are some of the lessons your children have taught you about life and being a mom?
A)Being able to let go and go with the flow. The house won’t always be as neat as you like. Things won’t always go according to plan.
B)At the end of the day,the world isn’t as important as my kids.I may never get appreciated out there,but to my kids I am a Goddess.
C)Be myself, fear no one, and be honest about how I feel. Kids are the most honest individuals on the planet, and they will always express their feelings. We just don’t listen sometimes. They also view everyone in a non-discriminatory way, reminding us that we are all the same.
What are your dreams for your children?
My dreams for my children are that they have trust funds so they have the choice of working for themselves and the betterment of fellow blacks who have not had the same opportunities as them.
…and your support system?
The support system I have is phenomenal! Between my husband, sister, mother, and brother – I know I don’t need to panic, ever. Traveling without my children sometimes is relaxing. I need time away from them sometimes, and I’ve learnt to not feel bad about taking it. I end up missing them though, after day 4!
From your upbringing, which lessons and values do you want to impart on your children?
My upbringing and lessons my parents taught me, are those I impart to my children. Those are paying attention to their strengths, and encouraging them. Showing them the importance of giving. Rearing them as a unit, in teaching them to stick together instead of competing with one another. My sister, brother, and I are very close, I want the same for my kids.
Would you like to still have more children?
Noooo! I’m good in this department. I have a boy and a girl, so what more do I need.
What are some of your proud mommy moments?
My proudest Mommy moment was- there’s a few. When my son sang a Justin Bieber song on stage during his first ever school concert! I cried of course! When my daughter brought home a body image drawing from school. It looked so advanced for her age. These are just a few, at the top of my head.
I thank God everyday for Him being in my life. I attribute my family to Him. I am truly blessed.
Being a young mother and wife in media with sometimes crazy hours means, I don’t have as much time to unwind. I’m on the go from the moment I wake, till the early night. I must add that I work the best hours though, because I’m able to take my kids to school every morning, pick them up in the afternoons, I prepare their lunch boxes, I cook their dinner, I oversee homework, and can attend sports and extra mural events. Bath time, bed time I’m there. So I think I have enough time for them.
Happy Mothers day to Mrs. Beda- the woman whose strength can move mountains. And to Mrs Matsaunyane snr- thanks for raising an incredible man who I call my husband.
Asanda Matsaunyane (@Mount_Asander) is a News writer and reader on SAfm, and a freelance radio presenter on Channel Africa. She provides training for individuals interested in entering the radio broadcasting field, or those who wish to learn more about this field for the benefit of their companies. Born and raised in the small town of Idutywa in the old Transkei area, this lady always had ambitions beyond her surroundings and norms. Asanda Matsaunyane has, under her achievements, a BA degree in Media Studies and Psychology, from the University of the Witwaterstrand. She has also studied Sociology as well as Film, Visual, and Performing Art, which indicates her broad interests. Her business achievements include, Launching a clothing line in 2007-Fungi Clothing and Maternity, which has now branched into catering, home products, and training; Nominee for MTN Radio Award-News Reader of the Year 2011; Current Affairs show presenter-Motswako Media in 2010; Award recipient of POWA Women of the year 2009-for her work as a volunteer in women and youth empowerment: Training facilitator- POWA 2007, Newsletter Editor for People Opposing Women Abuse 2006, Voice over artist for Wits TV 2002, Miss S. A Teen finalist 1999.